Some of us grew up idolizing our dads. Trying to shave just like him. Learning his secret grilling techniques. Sure that he would have the answer to everything from baseball trivia to stock advice. We even learned how to lay under the car and go, “Hmmm?”

Others of us have more complicated relationships with our dads, leaving tender scars that have taken years to heal. As a fatherhood and family leader yourself, you understand that dads carry a big responsibility. How we lead and interact with our kids is likely how they will (at least at first) understand and experience God the Father. This is also a big opportunity. No, it doesn’t come naturally, but learning to lead as a godly father is an investment worth making. Here are 3 qualities of a godly father.

3 Daily Gifts of a Godly Dad

God’s Word provides a roadmap we can follow to become a Godly Father. With the help of the Holy Spirit, you can step up and be the leader in your home.

Gift #1: His Presence

Get it? Gifts? Be “present”? Come on! Seriously, spending time with your kids is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. One of the most significant ways Jesus invested in his closest disciples was by being present. He was there for those day-to-day moments while they ministered, ate, did laundry, and walked those dusty miles.

Research tells us that “paternal involvement positively impacts child health and development.” We shouldn’t be surprised. This confirms the truth found in Scripture.

“Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” —Deuteronomy 11:19

Gift #2: His Example

Kids notice everything. That’s good and bad news. From how you spend your time to what team you cheer for, and how you take your coffee in the morning. (Might wanna watch your language as you hit that next traffic jam!)

You can model what it looks like to be an authentic believer for your kids. Not a perfect one; but an authentic one. This can look like practicing forgiveness, submitting to authority, and encouraging your family to grow in their faith.

“Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.” —Titus 2:6-8

Gift #3: His Prayer

As dads, we want to protect and provide for our families. The strength to do this well is found partly through a deepening relationship with God through prayer.

Pray for your kids, pray with your kids, and teach your kids to pray. As earthly fathers with our struggles and stressors, we can depend on God in prayer to give us wisdom and discernment.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” —Philippians 4:6-9

 

Portions of this post originally appeared at Manhood Journey’s Blog.