Guest post by Bill Eyster, Executive VP and COO of FamilyLife and Fatherhood CoMission Board Member
Advice (Opinions) are like noses…
If you are around people, you undoubtedly are getting all sorts of advice. Someone said, “Opinions are like noses, everyone has one”. Those opinions often show up in the form of advice in all sorts of areas…
People give stock tips – wish I had bought Apple a few years ago when a friend suggested. Another friend recommended I get in on the Facebook IPO!
Diet aids give advice on how to trim down. Those pills that cause the pounds to just fall off sound like great advice. Why go through all the pain and suffering of exercising when all you need to do is take a pill and before you know it you are a new slimmer version of yourself.
Match making companies give plenty advice on who you should date. Just plug in your parameters and expectations and bam… you find your soul mate.
Advice worth listening to…
Needless to say, there is plenty of advice out there. But at the risk of adding to an already overcrowded array of advice to choose from, I want to share some that I got from a wise friend of mine named Crawford Loritts.
A group of friends were out to dinner one night and as each of us shared what was going on in our lives, I mentioned that our daughter had just gotten her learners permit. Now any time this topic is shared in a group of people, the reactions range from hysterical laughter to looks of pain, sort of the, “better you than me” look.
3 Keys to Teaching Your Teenager to drive
After the group settled down and had their fun at my expense, Crawford spoke up. He shared that when he started teaching his kids to drive, he had three unwavering rules that his kids had to agree to without question:
1.) Do everything I tell you
2.) I am always right
3.) Don’t say, “I know”
Now understand that Crawford is a well respected pastor, author and speaker. He and Karen also have some terrific kids that are now young adults with fantastic families of their own. So, if Crawford is giving advice I am very likely to take heed.
The next day, I sat down with my daughter and outlined these three simple rules. I didn’t give Crawford appropriate attribution but I was firm and explained that a condition of her ability to drive was that she agrees with these rules. Needless to say, she agreed.
I cannot tell you how effective these rules were. I was amazed at how simple yet profound they were as we worked through the challenges of helping our daughter and then later, our son, become a safe and effective driver.
So, take some advice from me (passed down from Crawford), use these rules when you start teaching your teenager to drive. You will be glad you did.
P.S. Too bad Crawford wasn’t the one who suggested I by Apple a few years ago!
By: Bill Eyster
In addition to being on the Board of Directors for the Fatherhood CoMission, Bill is the Executive Vice President and COO of FamilyLife, a ministry of Cru (formerly, Campus Crusade for Christ) and one that was created on the principle that the family provides the foundation for society. The ministry offers a wide range of tools to help families become stronger.