He is All I Want!

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The story is told about a young girl who was attempting to quote David’s 23 Psalm for the first time in front of her classmates. She took a deep breath and nervously begins the Psalm with, “The Lord is my Shepherd. He is all I want.” Many might think that she misquoted it. I think she got it just right. Is Christ all that we want, or do we possess divided loyalties?

American Christians have become more of a subculture rather than counterculture — a called-out one. Many are stuck in the same paradigm as the world. The subculture reflects the value system or worldview of the culture. which keeps them from becoming agents of change. A subculture is defined by the culture itself. It seems over the centuries that the only time the Church is willing to rise up is when the culture threatens its very existence.

I guess the only way for the church to be revived, to rise up, is that our very existence be threatened. We are awakened by a good dose of persecution. The Church has become a well-trained institution and the reality is that we have become very provident functioning without the manifest presence of God.

Christ is calling us to become a reflection of Him and to become aliens and strangers in this world. We are to be in the world but not of it. We are called to be revolutionaries, change agents. We were created in Christ to stand out, reflect him; not blend in and mirror the world. I think most convinced Christians would take a bullet for Christ but live for him in secret. He did the dying; he is asking us to do the denying, take up our cross, our revolutionary cause and completely follow him. (Matt. 16:24-26)

In Mark 10:17-22, Christ was asked by a convinced young man what he must to do to inherit eternal life. Christ simply asked him if he was attempting to keep all the commandments. He answered with the affirmative. He was very religious. In our day we might answer, “I go to church most Sundays; I read my Bible on occasion; I pray when I need to; I give if I have enough; I serve on work days.” How would you answer?

Scripture goes on to read, “Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine love for him. ‘There is still one thing you haven’t done,’ he told him. ‘Go and sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come and follow me.’ At this the man’s face fell, and he went away sad, for he had many possessions.” His riches, his possessions, were his competing loyalties! The little girl got it right; let Christ be all we want because He is all we need.

Reflect

What is God asking of you that is keeping you from completely following Christ?

 

Dr. Dan Erickson

Chief Servant Leader  |  People Matter Ministries

www.peoplematterministries.com

Five Strategies for Raising Creative Kids

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Dear Moms and Dads:

Every field of endeavor needs a creative spark. And your brilliant kids can provide it! How can you encourage that spark?  Consider . . .

  1. When your four year old proudly presents you with a drawing of what looks like a porcupine playing piano and eating pizza on the porch, invite them up on to your lap and talk about it. Don’t ask, “What is it?”  Instead, ooohand aaah.  Then ask them about the decisions they made in the creative process. “How did you choose these two colors?” “These lines are straight and these are curvy. Why did you choose that?” Partner with them in the discovery of their own creative abilities and help them see how they have control over the creative choices they make. You can even suggest that their efforts have led you to think new thoughts.

 

  1. Anytime your kid expresses an interest in a new artistic endeavor, make a financial investment. But start cheap. Buy a beginner guitar, basic set of watercolors, or single lined journal. Sign them up for an inexpensive park district ballet class or children’s theater class. Let them know that if they commit to the quest, pursue it enthusiastically, fill the journal with deep thoughts, or really use the paints, you’ll invest even more. My dad was a master at this. For Christmas, Papa bought my son, Alec, a cheap harmonica and said, “Play me a song and I’ll buy you the best one in the store.” Later that afternoon, Alec surprised us all by playing a snappy rendition of  “Jingle Bells.”  Before the New Year, Papa took his grandson out for a pretty nice Hohner Harmonica.  Alec used that same instrument on stage more than a decade later.

 

  1. Occasionally, your son or daughter may invite you to comment on something they have created. Take it in. Don’t comment too quickly. Listen to the entire song. Examine the fabric. Look at the sculpture from all sides.  Ask for time to read the entire article, script, novel or short story.  Then come back in a reasonable amount of time and use the 80/20 rule.  After delivering four encouraging comments, you have earned the right to make one gentle suggestion. Especially if you are critiquing the work of a young artist, err on the side of grace.

 

  1. Talk about art. Define art. In 1998, two human artists founded The Elephant Art & Conservation Project, which features and sells “artwork” painted by elephants. The most talented of the pachyderms will hold a brush in their trunk and create abstract works of art. The humans place the empty canvases in front of the elephants that have been trained in some cases to create colorful and eye-pleasing designs including self portraits.  Ask your child, “Is this art?”

 

  1. With your kids, open your Bible to Genesis 1:27. “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them.” There’s much packed in to those words. The passage describes God as a Creator and describes humans made in the image of God. Which means that we must also have the gift to create. All of us. Including you and each of your children. 

 

Dads and Moms, you are in a unique position to help your kids uncover their creative gifts. And harvest those gifts to build God’s Kingdom and give glory back to Him.

Blessings,

/jay

 

As a family advocate, life pundit, and humorist, Jay Payleitner has sold some half-million books including 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad, Quick Tips for Busy Families, and What If God Wrote Your Bucket List?   He speaks nationwide on parenting, marriage, creativity, and finding your life purpose.  Jay and his high school sweetheart, Rita, live in the Chicago area where they raised five great kids, loved on ten foster babies, and are cherishing grandparenthood.  You can track him down at www.jaypayleitner.com.

Better Than a Dozen Roses: 12 Ways to Let Your Daughter Know She’s Your Valentine

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With Valentine’s Day coming up soon, I figure there’s no better way to celebrate the holiday than to highlight the power of a heart connection from a dad to his daughter. And though some may view this day as one reserved only for romance between sweethearts, I see it as an opportunity for a girl to be treated in an extra special way by her dad, thus creating a model for future comparison so she’ll know how to be treated when the love of her life comes knocking!

Rather than give her 12 roses to let her know she’s loved by you this year, why not instead choose 12 things that you can do for her or with her that let her know that she’s worth celebrating?

This 14th of February can be the start of a new tradition where you give your time, energy, and creativity that says, “You’re my valentine.” Incidentally, you’ll notice that none of these things cost money. They’re going to require that you dig deeper inside yourself than into your wallet.

Have fun being resourceful in ways that require ingenuity, patience, a servant’s heart, and a good dose of humor. Here are a dozen ideas to help you win her heart anew this Valentine’s Day:

  • Do something fun that involves the two of you enjoying an activity together —walking, running, biking, shooting hoops, kicking a ball, playing a board game, etc.

 

  • Let her teach you something she’s good at and you’re not —baking, cooking, doing an art project, coloring, talking!

  • Write a letter telling her the qualities that you love, admire, respect, and want to reinforce in her —for extra credit, read the letter to her and I guarantee this will be something she will treasure for the rest of her life.

  • Step out of your comfort zone and invite her to dance with you to one of her favorite songs —if she declines, don’t feel bad; she won’t forget you asked, even if she says “no.”

 

  • Listen for ten uninterrupted minutes while practicing active listening skills —look at her while she talks, nod your head to show you’re interested, lean forward, ask questions to encourage her to talk more (yes, you heard me right!).

 

  • Share three stories from your childhood that you’ve never told her before —of course you’ll want to ask her if she’d like to hear them since some girls like hearing stories more (or less) than others.

 

  • Serve her in a way that is unexpected and out of the ordinary—fix something that’s broken, run an errand so she doesn’t have to, make her bed for her, do one of her chores as a surprise gift to her.

 

  • Ask if you’ve hurt her and then seek forgiveness after hearing the whole story —and/or follow the lead of one dad who has makes a practice of asking his five-year old daughter a question every night as he tucks her into bed, “Has Daddy been sharp with you today?” This allows him to hear the hurts and repair them one day at a time.

  • Surf the internet with her and find funny videos that make you both laugh

  • Take selfies of the two of you putting random things on your heads with silly captions to then post on her social media sites with the hashtag #daddaughterselfie

 

  • Go through your kitchen and at any time of day make a breakfast food that she loves—pancakes, waffles, omelet, cereal—and eat it with no hands, creating an experience that is sure to make a lasting memory! (Idea credit: Garth Brooks, who led his daughters to do this with him during their growing up years, now inspiring others to follow his lead).

 

  • Watch one of her favorite television shows or movies with her…and enter into it in a way that enhances the experience for her —no making fun of anything she likes and offer to pop popcorn or dish up ice cream to make things extra fun and memorable.

 

Why not give your daughter a new kind of Valentine gift this year that requires your full attention and whole heart?

I’m convinced that she’ll feel loved by you in a new way as you give more of yourself than money can buy. I believe this has the potential to be better than a dozen roses as this forever memory will last a lifetime!

Dr. Michelle Watson has a clinical counseling practice in Portland, Oregon and has served in that role for the past 18 years. She is founder of The Abba Project, a 9-month group forum that is designed to equip dads with daughters ages 13 to 30 to dial in with more intention and consistency, and has recently released her first book entitled, Dad, Here’s What I Really Need from You: A Guide for Connecting with Your Daughter’s Heart. She invites you to visit www.drmichellewatson.com for more information and to sign up for her weekly Dad-Daughter Friday blogs where she provides practical tools so that every dad in America can become the action hero they want to be and their daughters need them to be. You can also follow or send feedback on Facebook at www.facebook.com/drmichellewatson and Twitter @mwatsonphd.

Are We Raising “Ephesian” Men?

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Jesus’s last words to his church in the New Testament are found in the first few chapters of the Book of Revelation.  John carries a message for seven specific churches from a man who identifies Himself as: “the first and the last, the living one who died and is now alive forevermore”. There is only one person this could be.

For five of the seven churches, a common theme: “repent”. And perhaps none is more jarring than the first of these letters, which is to the Ephesians.

As He always does, God points to the positives. And this case, there are many. The Ephesian church:

  • Is hard working
  • Patiently endures tribulation
  • Exercises sound discernment and removes false teachers
  • Hates the works of the heretical “Nicolaitans”

I don’t know about you, but at this point, I would be preparing to step forward for a special honor. What more could He ask for? But then the other shoe drops…

Jesus makes it really clear that He has this against the church at Ephesus: they have lost their first love.

What kind of men are we raising? If we raise the kind that excel at the positive things the Ephesian church was demonstrating, surely we are doing well?

Here’s what I see.

I see that regardless what we say or how hard we try to buck it, it’s just human nature to promote leaders who demonstrate they are “all in”.

  • The men who contribute their time, talents, and tithes.
  • The men who step forward–with enthusiasm–to lead meetings.
  • The men who are predictable—they embrace our values and can tell our stories.
  • The men who have demonstrated leadership in other endeavors, such as business, sports, or entertainment.

Here’s what else I see. Regardless of how hard we try to swim against the tide, it’s natural for men we are raising to get the false impression that growth as believers is synonymous with their service in our men’s ministries. It’s completely understandable how this can occur:

  • We need help
  • We ask for help
  • Volunteers come forward to help
  • We check their effectiveness, and promote those who do a good job

In the middle of this perfectly natural system, as we are building a ministry and growing our influence, we can miss one of the most basic things of all: actual time with Jesus in prayer and the Word. Not the kind of prayer where we focus on our ministry, but instead, where we focus on sweet communion from heart-to-heart. Not the kind of time in the Word where we focus on an upcoming message, but rather where we sit and delight in meeting the Living Word of God.

There is a risk that Jesus clearly identifies to the church in Ephesus. Dotting all the “I”s and crossing all the “T”s is good, but it’s not enough.

Jesus interrupts our generally accepted accounting spiritual practice (GAASP) with this fundamental question: “but what about the love?”

Let me be as clear as possible in application. As men’s ministry leaders, we are forever repeating this narrative: “God is after relationship, not religion”. But we must resist every ounce of human nature that drives us to incorrectly focus on performance rather than resting securely in heart connection with God.

How do we assess our true spiritual fitness level? I know of no better diagnostic test than this. Evaluate where you really truly stand in your own time of personal prayer and time in the Word. Not what you SHOULD be doing, but what you are ACTUALLY doing.

  • Are you engaging in these activities as a means to “check a box”, or do you treat these as divine encounters that provide the only source of spiritual food for any believer to grow in the inner man?
  • Are you treating your prayer and Word times as an opportunity to listen to what OTHER MEN have said about God, or are you cultivating an open discussion of a heart-to-heart nature?
  • Are you promoting a climate of accountability with other men around these “behind the scenes” investment in seeking God in the quiet places, or are you giving yourself and everyone around you “slack” because no one really wants to go there?

Jesus makes it pretty clear that even if we “get it right” in every other department, if we bypass the relationship department, we are risking everything. Who wants to spend their whole life thinking we are “all in”, only to find out that we missed the central point of life in Christ?

My prayer? That God will show us if and where we are standing in need of repentance; and that He would give us the grace to repent as if there is no tomorrow.

 

Tim Truesdale is a husband, father of 4, and nationally recognized leader of Men’s Ministry. The Father is very fond of him.

White Bread and Eggs

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I had found my dad after he had abandoned our family and mom moved away. I lived with him just long enough for him to sign the papers that allowed me to get a driver’s licenses at 15. A hardship license. Seemed right to me.

When my parents split I was just 14 and I chose to live on the street, make my own way, and do whatever I wanted. That meant stealing things, talk my friends into giving me money, and taking and selling drugs at will. I was lost and did not know how bad my life was becoming.

When I was growing up we ate solid homemade country foods. My mom was and still is a fantastic cook. Everything is made from scratch, old-style. Bread was the staple food in our house- especially white bread. Soft white center with a golden brown crust. Toasted sandwiches, egg, peanut butter and jelly, melted cheese, tuna with sweet relish. We would take fresh white bread, tear it into small pieces, and sprinkle white sugar over it and our cold whole milk. All stale bread was used to make bread pudding (that was too die for).

I can’t remember where the connecting point was, a friend of a friend maybe. Just after I had gotten my license, I was trying to figure out a way to get a car. I had burned a lot of bridges after I first hit the streets. I was a fast talker and smooth operator- most addicts and alcoholics are early on. Somehow I found a family that needed their big ole 2-story house painted and they were willing to trade an old car and some money for the labor. I said, “Heck yeah!”

I had minimal skills. Still, swabbing a 5-inch paintbrush back and forth could not be all that hard. It was summer, the heat was on, and this house was huge. I arrived early each morning and got to work. No lunch that I can remember. No water bottles or Gatorade either. Just me and my trusted paint brush, a yard hose and a whole lot of time.

The young mom who lived there was super nice to me. I think she knew I was in a rough place. I was very skinny, my hair was long and scruffy, my skin tanned from the Texas sun. Each morning as I began my day she would come out and share the obligatory, “do you need anything?” My response was always, “no mam.” Then one morning she asked if I would like an egg sandwich. I replied “yes”. She delivered it warm on toasted white bread with a bit of mayo and mustard. From that day forward my days changed. She would bring me an egg sandwich and tell me good morning. If she was not home it sat with my gear wrapped in a paper towel.

My heart was impacted by that egg sandwich. I did not know it at the time, but that feeling I had each morning as she came out and cared for me nurtured the lost little boy inside who desperately wanted to be cared for. God was giving me a moment with Him. I never knew it.

In the years to come, as my kids made their way through the house and out the door in the morning on their way to school, I would make them an egg sandwich- just like that lady did for me. Even this morning, as my adult daughter made her way to leave for work I had an egg sandwich on white bread with mayo and a bit of mustard. It was warm and wrapped in a paper towel waiting for her. Memories and habits of the heart. Things that gave us comfort and remind us of good times as a child can brand our hearts, our lives, how we talk and walk and feed our families. These will be the things that form us as an adult. The good, the bad and the stuff in the middle. It is who you are and will always be.

I am not sure if I ever thanked that lady or not. I don’t know if they were Christians or just kind people who wanted to get some paint on their house. I can tell you that her kindness has never been forgotten. I know it has given me a heart for workers at my house. I also love egg sandwiches, on white bread toast with a bit of mayo and mustard, and maybe a small pile of bacon.

Thank you lady with the huge house, with super tall sides, that needed painting one hot Texas summer. Your egg sandwiches were a gift to me from God Himself and it made a difference in that young boy’s life and this old man’s ways. God is always there, always.

 

-TJ Greaney

Founder: Kids Outdoor Zone Adventure Ministry

Member: National Coalition of Men’s Ministries

Owner/Publisher: Country Line Magazine, since 1996

Host: The Outdoor Zone, #1 Outdoor Radio Show on NBC Radio Network

President: Texas Outdoor Writers Association

“OTOY”: One Thing, Once a Year- For Your Marriage

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A great reminder to start the New Year from our friends at Family Dynamics Institute:

Doing ONE THING, ONCE a YEAR for your marriage is very simple to do….if you make it a priority.   When we mention this idea of doing one thing once a year for your marriage at speaking engagements and trainings nearly all of the heads in the room nod in agreement.   Yet when asked for a show of hands of how many are doing something once a year for their marriage….only a few go up.

So…..we understand that we should, for most of us we could, now if we only would.

We see our doctors, change our oil, file our taxes, and renew our licenses or certifications if our job requires it, all on a regular basis every year.   Why?  Simply because we know that there are consequences if we don’t and we value the benefits of keeping those items “up to date”.

So why are most of us ignoring the most important relationship that we will have with another person on this planet?

Doesn’t make sense….does it?

We encourage you to get started now and continue doing One Thing, Once a Year, and for those who already are, keep it up and share the positive impacts it has for your marriage with others.

What types of “THINGS” are we talking about? 

While date nights, praying together, shared recreational activities are all great (and should also be a part of your healthy marriage growth)…we are encouraging some things that involve learning relationship skills that you will use every day.

Taking a class for your marriage, a weekend retreat, taking a home study class, and similar types of experiences that provide you with solid information and practical application that you can use every day.  Some couples have shared with us that they set up a getaway weekend with other married couple friends and spend some time going through sections of class materials to grow stronger as a couple and still have vacation time to enjoy with their spouse.

An ongoing mix of these types of experiences is vital to growing stronger together as a couple.  Our lives are changing every day, we learn new things, have new challenges and experiences that impact us in many ways.  Taking time consistently to grow in the relationship with the one we love is the best ongoing preparation for whatever life brings, both good and bad.

We encourage you not to end up in the latter stages of your life looking back with a “would-a, could-a, should-a” feeling about things you did for your marriage.

So…..what are you waiting for….what’s your ONE THING to start with??

– Family Dynamics Institute

 

Family Dynamics Institute collaborates with Churches, Companies, and Community Organizations to help them provide a Comprehensive Marriage Ministry to help married and engaged couples grow stronger at all ages and stages of marriage.

To Learn More:

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Remembering Where Our Blessings Come From

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Read Deuteronomy 8:7-20.

Often when we spend dedicated time communing with the Father, we see ourselves reflected in the mirror of His Word. God’s Word convicts. God’s Word comforts. God’s Word conveys truth.

The writer of Deuteronomy reminded the children of Israel of God’s goodness, telling them that He had provided “a good land,” a vibrant water supply, food, land for mining, and so much more. But he also warned these people in verses 11-14a:

“But that is the time to be careful! Beware that in your plenty you do not forget the Lord your God and disobey his commands, regulations, and decrees that I am giving you today. For when you have become full and prosperous and have built fine homes to live in, and when your flocks and herds have become very large and your silver and gold have multiplied along with everything else, be careful! Do not become proud at that time and forget the Lord your God. (NLT)

Then He repeated the warning in verse 18: “Remember the Lord your God. He is the one who gives you power to be successful.”

Take this warning personally. Take time to once again acknowledge the holiness, the goodness, and the sovereignty of God—in your life, in your family, in your ministry, and around the world. Praise God today so that you don’t forget His loving presence and persistence in your everyday! Compose a list of all the ways you’ve seen Him at work this year: the blessings, the encouragements, the struggles, the successes, the hard places and the places of abundance. Recognize and rejoice that He is God. He loves you. He knows you and holds you in the palm of His hand.

 

Brenda Harris is a student of God’s Word…and a wife, mother, and grandmother! She loves uncovering truths and promises in Scripture. Brenda serves as prayer coordinator for Kendrick Brothers Productions.

Facing Your Blitz: Turn Your Marriage Around

Ray and Felissia were headed toward divorce. Hear their turnaround story and watch to see the hope and help available for you too.

Game Plan:

“Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice [ just ways ] of God. You will always harvest what you plant.” Galatians 6:7, NLT

Time Out:

We reap what we sow. We get out what we put in. Assets grow when we invest. Effort pays off. If this is so, why do we dream that marriage will be easy and automatic? Why think that relationships shouldn’t take work?

Why would we think that ‘struggling and unhappy’ is the best we can get? God invented marriage to succeed when we depend upon Him and follow His blueprints.

Go Deep:

Don’t give up on your marriage or settle for average. Get some coaching and put some effort every year into building your marriage.

There are lots of ways to deepen your marriage…books, videos, mentors and counselors. One pathway has helped over a million people. It’s what we do at FamilyLife where I work…the Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.

INVEST…get away for a weekend of fun and fueling your marriage or tell a young couple or friends that you’ll pay for their registration.

 

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Christmas, Single Parents, and Immanuel

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Christmas. Many of us think of it as a time of celebration of our Lord’s birth; a time of joy, creating and reliving childhood memories; music, family, food, and holiday cheer. This is the one season that seems almost magical- the most wonderful time of the year. For a single parent, however, this can also be one of the most difficult times to endure.

While everyone else is posting pictures on social media and sharing tales of their family gatherings, celebrating all of their children’s funny antics and what their spouse did to surprise them with the perfect gift, single parents often have to rejoice with those who rejoice, all while covering up the pain of loss and loneliness in their own lives. They can feel forgotten or disregarded. I’ve been there, and in many ways, I still hurt during the holidays too. But rather than taking on a spirit of defeat, let’s choose this year to celebrate Immanuel, God with us.

We can know Jesus is with us…

  • When there is an empty chair at the table because this is your first year as a single parent, He is God with us.
  • When we don’t have our children on Christmas Day because they are at the other parent’s house, He is God with us.
  • When everything seems to be caving in financially, and you can barely afford presents for your children, let alone anyone else, He is God with us.
  • When we are choking back the tears because the pain and shame seems too much to bear, He is God with us.
  • When we feel like everything around us is crumbling, including our faith, and no one even seems to notice, He is God with us.

The greatest gift of all…

Even if we relate to any of the examples above, we still have a GREATER reason to celebrate because of Jesus this year: He IS God with us! He is the perfect gift, buying us back into relationship with our heavenly Father. He fills the void no one else can; reminds us that we are on a continual journey with Him, and never leaves us, even when we wander. He fills in all of our tangible needs; calms our hurts and fills us with a peace this world will never provide. The reason Jesus is Immanuel, God with us, is because He created us, has been where we are, and has cleared the path for us to be assured that He is with us- always.

Do not be afraid; for behold, I bring you good news of great joy which will be for all the people; for today in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. –Luke 2:10-11 (NASB)

Single parents, will you celebrate the holidays with joy this year, knowing that in all circumstances God is with us?

 

Written by Matt Haviland of A Father’s Walk single dad ministry. Originally posted on December 15, 2015 at www.1Corinthians13Parenting.com

Holiday Traditions as a Single Parent

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I once posted on Facebook, Traditions: they mean something in a child’s life. Whether it’s an annual thing, a special day of the week, or something that is just between you and your child, traditions have the ability to bring our sons and daughters back to a time in their life they can hold on to forever. Best of all, many of these special memory makers don’t have to cost a fortune, but they WILL reap eternal riches!

I was never married to my daughter’s mom. As the years passed, I found myself feeling like I had to compete against her in regards for my daughter’s affection through my actions. Financially, her side of the family had me beat. They could afford to take fancy vacations and buy my daughter nicer gifts. I eventually got to the point where I began to loathe the statement, “I don’t have money to do that” every time my daughter asked me to buy her something she wanted or go somewhere I could not afford. I was basing my identity as a parent on external love rather than selfless sacrifice.

As time progressed, God began to do some heart surgery on me. I became more aware of His truths in my life─ and my eyes were opened to multiple traditions my daughter and I were already doing together. He had been right there all along─ working in areas I thought I was failing in and helping me be the father I already was! My heart would swell as I was now able to slow down enough to actually ENJOY the precious time I was spending with her instead of fast forwarding ahead to what we could do next. To this date, my daughter and I still have plenty of traditions that are ours.

Single parenting is tough, no doubt about it. Sometimes we may feel as if we carry an unfair disadvantage compared to married couples. Still, traditions with your children do not have to stop…or they can begin anew. They say that time heals all wounds, but Jesus gives us much more than that. He is able to heal the broken parts of our lives AND restore us to greater heights than we knew without Him. Don’t make the same mistakes I did: competing with the other parent on worldly terms or allowing temporary barriers such as finances to hinder your role as a godly parent. We only get one shot at this life, and our kids will grow up despite our best efforts to keep them young. Instead, let’s put our trust in the Lord today and allow Him to turn temporary moments into eternal memories for us and our children.

As a single parent, how will you continue to create traditions with your children to leave them with memories they can hold on to forever?

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. –Ecc 3:1 (NIV)

Matt Haviland is the founder and director of A Father’s Walk single dad ministry. For more information, please visit www.afatherswalk.org.

Originally posted at www.1Corinthians13Parenting.com